What would you do if you found out that your best friend or lover had betrayed you? I’m not talking here about an acquaintance or someone you know at work, I’m referring to someone who’s been around in your life for years. The two of you go way back… when you got to know him/her in your youth… every day you were together, a constant companion, sharing the good times and the bad… In fact people remarked and commented on how inseparable you are.
Then wham suddenly… you realize that all along he or she was a liar and a cheat…
That their true affection was for someone else and they were just using you. And if that wasn’t bad enough they even abused you. In fact if you give it some thought the abuse wasn’t just physical – it was also mental and emotional abuse. How low can someone get!
I bet you’re feeling stirred up just reading about this.
Well that is exactly what happened to Duncan… He woke up one day and realized just how much he had been duped…
Yet, the more he thought about it, the more he knew deep down in his gut, that he had a feeling that something had been going on… but couldn’t pin point it. He felt he couldn’t confront his friend because whenever they were together he felt so good…they were happy together, but it was the times apart that doubts set in and these doubts always seemed to get much worse when other people commented on his relationship with his friend. What they were saying wasn’t nice… but it was true and Duncan deep in his heart always knew it.
There were times he contemplated ending the friendship, but never saw it through. His relationship was like that of two lovers who could not live in harmony, yet at the same time they could not live without each other either. When together he’d often feel guilty about his feelings, but when apart he was just downright miserable. A couple of times they split company and didn’t get together for a while… but Duncan couldn’t stay apart… and would do almost anything to be with his friend again.
When things finally came out in the open, instead of feeling angry, guilty, foolish, or sad, he was surprised to feel something he hadn’t expected to feel. He felt empowered! Empowered to do all the things he wanted to do but never had the money or the inclination to do them. He felt happiness and a sense of security because he felt he was Okay – just as he was. He didn’t need anyone or anything to make him feel happy. The sense of relief of not having to continue in this dishonest, sometimes secret, love/hate relationship was overwhelming but in an exciting, exuberant way… for Duncan had found freedom. For the first time in his life he felt in control of his life…
I invite you to hear more about Duncan and his story on Monday 18th February at 9pm UK time when I present the LIVE webinar:
‘How to Accept that cigarettes will never love you back – and where to go to get what you really want’
I look forward to meeting you there
To your success,
